Yesterday evening, I received a phone call from a friend. Was on the eve of his birthday 50, and although it is much better than most average, was still a big problem for her.
And I would like to remind the men there is a difference underlying biological structure strongly for women of this age, as they faced death incarnate on the Internet about this era - childbearing person they were since their adolescence to an end, and the person to structurally different tools.
So it is not vanity or toxic, and there are so much more at all levels and it is not surprising that feels safe my friend. What she wanted she did not want to happen is to go to the first night of the year 50 of his whole life's regrets, sorrows, worries and the loss of life, something better than that for the same party to help this threshold set by time, how can we measure the time and expense of days.
We can easily occur for another hour and a half remaining before midnight struck 12 and try to ignore this thing, but I did not feel it was appropriate not only because it 's is moving very personal so we started discussing the appropriate ritual transition.
Instead of performance now is a kind of "death ritual" where you get to participate with all ne'ermores throughout his life, such as, "I can never hold a child of my own in my arms ..." and "I'm not going to dance to live Rolling Stones in the basement dead in mini skirt again ... "I told him that we focus instead on the year just ended, 49 years old.
What happened this year?
As well as a lot of things, actually. My friend had to live in a beach house she always wanted. I wrote and published his first book. Wrote her first song, the first exhibition of its year and swam with the dolphins.
How amazing!
And the extent to which more amazing to consider that if we travel in just two years time, 48th anniversary, and we discussed what could be coming, and could have been suggested and one of these things, it will never thought possible and mocked me.
What could possibly even take 50 years in the way of new surprises and unfoldments!
We can not know.
But one thing we do know is that in the year of a new life, new experiences, new challenges, and successes moments of glory.
And deserves to be entered with pride and joy, and full acceptance of what is to come.
Decided today to ring with a nice bathroom, and light candles, a glass of champagne.
To pass the time before 12 midnight to give gratitude for what it was, and a moment of reflection after turning resolutely towards the future, to have the space to ask about things that could have been expected for many years to finally realized and experienced, to have space to put up surprises and be ready to intervene, literally very, Fresh and clean and fresh in the new year of life in this fantasy world.
This is what my friend did, in itself, for itself, and it was delicious, magical and very special opportunity, without remorse and instead, with confirmation of a strong uprising of life and love of life.
She sleeps well, and when it was delivered the morning box of helium balloon that burst with a large number written on it 50, still carpet that filled him with small pieces of aluminum foil shine, with all the "50" printed on it, I laughed with joy and said: " It would be wonderful ... "
Merry Christmas, Nicolas!
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